I'm so glad it is Friday. I hope you have had a good week. It has been an emotional week for me. I don't usually talk about private things on this blog. After all, I did name it such a way that it reflects my personality, and I want my blog to stay light and lively. However, I do feel compelled to share something with you.
My little 6 year old girl, has been having to deal with play yard politics at school, and there were signs of bullying. A 6 year old child is not emotionally equipped to deal with these issues. I sat on my feelings about a few days but have since been scrambling about trying to find some solutions. I have been in contact with other parents (we're a bunch of emotional headcases, lots of tears), and we have some things in the works to try to address the things that have been going on in school.
One of the best book I've read about bullying is Barbara Coloroso's The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander. The thing that resonated most with me in this book is that for every child that has been bullied, there was an adult who knew about it and did not do anything. I guess I'm just pleading for you not to be that adult.
There are so many online resources available, from how to tell what is bullying and what is not, to being able to educate your child on the difference between tattling and telling, to how to detect warning signs of bullying behavior. Just do a quick search, you'll see what I mean!
Anyway, don't worry, I'll still keep my blog light. I just needed to get this out :)
Su
6 comments:
*hugs* to you mama.
(Heh...just saw your etsy banner on the left. I'm en route to listing some bowties in my shop, too...but they're, umm...really different from yours. haha. Yours look GREAT!! Mine are...unique. ;-))
One of my favourite parenting books is "10 Talks Parents Must Have With Their Children about Sex and Character" by Pepper Schwartz. It addresses bullying and bystander behaviours and options. This is nicely paired with the Hero Construction Company http://heroworkshop.wordpress.com/
Best wishes.
Su, I'm so sorry that your daughter is having to deal with this! i know from experience, it's so hard to send your child to school after finding out about her being bullied. My son was bullied in third grade. Thank God it was short lived, but the impact was still great. Good for you to take control right away, and so thoroughly. I haven't read that book, but I heard Ms.Coloroso on CBC radio, and she's very, very good. Maybe I'll have to get to the library...
I’m sorry to hear that you guys are dealing with this. I know it’s hard for a mama to not be able to “fix” things right away. I certainly hope that with your vigilance this will be a short chapter in your daughter’s life. Stay strong!
Oh no! I hope the Mamas and kids can find a resolution, that's terrible.
One of my students came to lessons this week looking pretty glum- he played football at school that day, and *he* was against the "best three players in the school." Apparently he made a play against them where he got the ball, and was tackled accordingly...and then hit or kicked in the head? And yelled at? I asked if he told his teacher- "No, because if you tell the teacher you normally get in trouble too. Being tall is horrible!" Kids pick on him because he's quite large for his age- he's only 10 I think, but very tall.
Su I'm so sorry to hear this! I have no idea why kids can be so cruel, but this seems to be a consistent theme for most children. Will be keeping your little honey in my prayers :) xo
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